Can you change your spouse after you get married?

Les explains that the unequal-yoke principle does not stop with marriage; it applies wherever believers and unbelievers must work together for a common cause, just as an ox and donkey or linen and wool do not belong together. Although he stresses he is not a marriage counselor or pastor, he notes many people call with marital problems, and invariably the problem was being unequally yoked one way or another, with problems beginning before marriage. He recalls a crying young lady whose husband became a wife beater; when asked if she knew he had that potential while they were going together, she admitted maybe a little. When asked why she married him, she said he was the star football player. Les says there is nothing wrong with football players as husbands, but choosing a man merely because he is a star football player is ridiculous and is again an unequal yoke. People walk into problems with their eyes wide open, thinking they can change the person somewhere down the road, but people do not change.