What does it mean that love does not vaunt itself?

It means love does not become egotistical or arrogant; love does not exalt itself or put pressure on the subjects of your love. It is not puffed up. This agape love is God-centered, and only the true believer can exercise it.

Les explains that to vaunt oneself means to become egotistical or arrogant, with arrogant being a better word. Love does not vaunt itself and try to put pressure on the subjects of your love; it just does not work that way. It is not puffed up. This love is not the erotic love Hollywood promotes but agape love that is God-centered. Only the true believer can really have and exercise this kind of love, while the unsaved world cannot comprehend it. Paul says this love is out there for us to latch on to.

1 Corinthians 13:4

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

Does love put pressure on the people you love?

No. According to Paul, love does not vaunt itself or become arrogant, and it does not try to put pressure on the subjects of your love. True agape love is God-centered, patient, kind, and selfless, never manipulative or coercive. Instead, it suffers long and is kind.