How should a husband live toward his wife?
A husband is the head of his wife, but he must not lord over her or treat her as a gopher or slave girl. He should live totally to his wife's benefit, mirroring Christ's headship over the church, giving her purest love, the best, and abundant life.
Les teaches that God mandated the husband-wife relationship with the husband as head of the wife, but this does not mean the wife is his gopher or slave girl or that he can lord over her. Les explains that the relationship is equated to Christ and the church: as the Lord is to the church, so the husband is to the wife. Since being in the body of Christ with Christ as the head is not uncomfortable or miserable, because He has nothing but the purest love and gives the best and abundant life, that is exactly how the husband-wife relationship should be. The husband should live totally to the benefit of his wife.